Despair and self destructive thoughts
I was asked the following by two different friends I will not reveal any identifying information to protect their anonymity:
1. What can you do about chronic feelings of despair; and,
2. What advice do you have for someone feeling suicidal?
I thought the same answer would apply to both questions.
“When somebody comes and opens up about suicidal thoughts the temptation is to feed them a bunch of platitudes and stock phrases like “suicide is a permanent answer to a temporary problem” or “think about your family” and the like. As well meaning, and even true they are they usually are, they are not generally much help when one is in darkness and pain. What people in your situation need is not simple words but a plan of action. Some concrete steps which have been proven to work.
In order for one to contemplate ending their own life two things must exist. One, unbearable pain. Two, the feeling that the pain is permanent. In order to work through such a crisis, and you must work through it because you are not going to just think or wish this problem away, one must address the core issues involved.